Are you feeling depleted and let down from too much doing and giving to others and wondering how do I get revived?   You may find yourselves immediately coming up with solutions. I can start a vigorous exercise and weight loss plan.. or I can come up with some new exciting goals for my business that will energize me.  Or maybe I set out to attract a new exciting relationship that will help me feel loved and accepted.

These are great intentions as we walk into the New Year, however if we are too drained to muster up the energy to even get these things going, we may find ourselves unmotivated and procrastinate to see any of these new intentions manifested in our life.

Over the last year I have worked with people from all different backgrounds and ages and they all seem to have consistent patterns of overdoing and giving that leave them feeling depleted and not living a fulfilled life.  They may struggle with addictions, work challenges, or unhealthy relationship patterns that hold them back.

Somehow they bought into the idea that by giving more and working harder to become successful, we would feel loved and accepted and people wouldn’t reject us. I love the research Brene Brown has done on shame where she shares that what we do to feel accepted is try to be perfect enough so others will approve of us. This can throw us into a constant state of overdrive of do, do, do… until one day we wake up wondering why our passion has waned and dwindled into the what I call the “no reserve syndrome”.  Anger many times can set in and keep us in a perpetual state of depression.

About four years ago I left my coaching work I was doing with Anthony Robbins because much of what we were doing with people was helping them muster up the emotional state they wanted to feel at any given moment so they could accomplish the goals they had for themselves.  What I learned over and over was people would self-sabotage because they needed to empty out the subconscious emotions first rather than try to just create positive emotions. It seemed like they were just putting band aids on things and eventually they would feel defeated when they weren’t able to move forward.

I have since been an avid student of learning cutting edge methods of uncovering  the subconscious thoughts that restrict people from emotional freedom. I am thankful for the tools that I have been able to put in my therapist tool bank so people can literally unleash themselves from much of the depression and painful losses that hold them back.

Tips for uplifting yourself:

• Start living in balance by finding ways to give to yourself.
• Identify what rooted emotions are driving your desire to give so much.
• Make friends with anger and not allowing it to be pushed down.
• Expressing and feeling your emotions so they can be released.
• Renewing your mindset with new empowering beliefs.
• Create more of a reserve for yourself of time, energy, and love in your life.

Have a healthy and prosperous mindset for the New Year!